I’m no stranger to the ”my life sucks” period. I’d drag myself out of bed sometime after noon, play video games for hours, maybe hang out drinking with friends or play snooker, stay up late, go for a long walk thinking about how much my life sucked, crash feeling depressed, and repeat. For months I kept doing the same thing over and over. And life kept right on sucking. My emotions kept telling me, “Damn this sucks!” That whole period of my life is one giant blur.
Finally I’d had enough and reached the breaking point, and I decided to change it. I finally woke up and realized that I was the one in charge of this life and that I actually had the power to change it. Even so, it still took me a few years before I was in a situation I felt I wanted. The outer change was neither fast nor easy. But it was a heck of a lot easier than wallowing in self-pity. And I started feeling a lot better as soon as I got moving in a new direction.
I stopped hanging out with unsupportive friends, stopped wasting money, stopped gambling, moved to a new dimension, started running, and reconnected with some positive old friends. I made lots and lots of changes. If I couldn’t figure out what would be better, I just went for different. And it worked.
If you’re going through a tough time right now, I feel for you. I’m saying that as someone who’s been there. Obviously I haven’t been through the same experiences you have, and we can compare notes about who had it worse later, but I know what it feels like to feel that life is totally pointless. I know what it feels like to wake up each morning with the hazy hope of finding something mildly interesting to do that day… but always being disappointed with the reality. I know what it’s like to look towards the future and see nothing to look forward to of any consequence, aside from the shallow possibility of a new movie or game to distract me a while longer.
I also know that the solution is to wake up and realize you’re doing this to yourself. Recognize that you’re the creator of your life — not your family, your boss, your spouse, the government, or society at large. No one is coming to rescue you. It’s all you. If your life currently sucks, it’s entirely up to you to change it.
We human beings are immensely resilient. Even when we’re in seemingly hopeless situations, we can still dig ourselves out and make something better of it. The only way for life to become truly hopeless is to decide to lose hope.
Your life will improve the moment you realize life isn’t something to be endured or tolerated. It’s an experience of your own creation. Your thoughts and actions are the primary forces that determine the reality of your day-to-day experience. If your life sucks, it’s because you’ve been a sucky creator. But you can get better.
In this lifetime you are the creator, the architect, the engineer, the artist. Use your gift of consciousness to chisel yourself a masterpiece. Then keep improving it as you enjoy the heck out of it. And never, ever give up.
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